Ohhhh wow! Summer is here! And for most it may be the start of their vacations and out of town trips, but for some it’s the perfect time to shoot their Prenup or Engagement sessions.
What is a Prenup / Esession exactly?
An engagement session or often times called as “Prenup” is simply defined as a portrait session for you and your spouse as you prepare to tie the knot. It’s the perfect time to reminisce and enjoy sweet moments with your loved one in a more calm manner.
and NO, it’s not the same with prenuptial agreements. You’re welcome!
But what does it really mean to have a Prenup/ Esession?
As some couples want to ditch the engagement sessions for factors like cost, expenses and time… I highly encourage my couples to plan and allot a time for it.
It’s not just another portrait session.
As others may perceive it as just another portrait session, it’s actually the very first collaboration that you’ll have with your chosen suppliers.
Hair and Make-up Artists. As some might not have the luxury to do a trial makeup, this can also serve as your testing phase. The HMUAs will have a better feel of your facial shape, complexion, and type of skin… and they can better prepare for it!
I had a bride once who had no idea that she was acidic. So on the day of our engagement session, we noticed that the make-up on her face is starting to get darker than her true complexion. Good thing the HMUAs are just on location and they retouched it with ease. Imagine if that happened to the wedding day itself, it would be a nightmare for us photographers!
The Venue. Different reception venues has varying rules when it comes to prenups / engagement sessions. Some may offer it for free while some might have a separate fee. But nonetheless, I encourage my client to do our engagement session on their chosen venue.
Why? For starters, 80% of the time it’s free! Who doesn’t want anything that’s free! And it’ll be a great time to explore the beauty of the place. Because as much as we want to explore the whole venue during the wedding day, we are still time constrained… time is our friend and worst enemy.
And for those who wants to be more adventurous, you can also check out other venues or out of town locations. You can try beaches, mountain scapes and alike but please do check these with your suppliers as well since out of town fees might be added.
Your Photographer / Videographer. You’ve seen their work, admired their shots but are you ready?Not to scare you or anything, but there is definitely a greater advantage for us if we do an engagement session.
It will be the first time we’ll work together.
It’ll be a great chance for you to know more about them, about us. Learn how they work and be more comfortable around them. As cliche as it may sound but I always encourage our clients to just be themselves but it does take a certain level of comfort and trust to do so. That is why we don’t just shoot your engagement photos but we also take part in planning your shoot and discussing your pegs and themes before hand. Communication is our biggest asset!
It’s your getting to know phase!
Apart from being comfortable behind the lens, it would also be the best time for us as photographers to take a more relaxed session. Because once the big day comes, believe me or not… everything is like a blur!
We will teach you ways to find your best angle, be more confident in your own skin and just be YOU in front of the camera minus the awkward stares to the unknown. You will be more confident on your wedding day and maybe you’ll even want a post nuptial session after!
We don’t just act as photographers, but we are also your creative directors and pose experts!
ESession done. Now what?
So we’re finished with the Engagement session, the next question is – What can we do with it?
Apart from digital copies of your gorgeous engagement portraits, you can also use them for your wedding in the form of
- venue decorations
- guest book
- gifts / favors
- table signs / numbers
- misalettes / programs
- photo booth layout
- wedding website
So grab that chance and book your session! You’ll never regret it. 🙂
Nikon Ambassador Joe Galian has been one of my idols ever since I started photography. I first met him during one of De La Salle – Dasmarinas’ Digital Conference about photography and I have looked up to him ever since.
So when I heard that he’ll be coming here to Cavite to conduct a workshop, I immediately signed up. Hey that’s Joe Galian we’re talking about. At first, my main reason is just to introduce my dad to photography, but I’m so happy that I came along!
Nikon Ambassador Joe Galian Workshop Organized by Trece Photography Club.
Faith Hope Ocampo
Amador Barongron Jr.
HMUA: Richard Rodrin
Venue: Forest Park, Trece Martires City
Designer: Emar Vida of Emvi Fashion Designs
About 8 months ago, I received an email telling me that she fell in love with my pictures in Instagram and wanted to book me for their upcoming family / esession photoshoot. I asked where it’ll be and when they informed me that it’ll be in Two Gardens Tagaytay, I freaked out.
Two Gardens Tagaytay is definitely one of my dream venue. I was still doubting myself and the fear of being not good enough slowly embraced me. Questions like “will they be happy with my output? Will they ever be satisfied with my shots?” echoed in my mind. It was really really nerve-racking.
The day finally came, I swallowed all my worries and took all the courage that I have left to proceed with the shoot. I gathered my troop: I had my ever supportive dad with me as my Production Assistant. I have Det, my-bride-turned-friend-turned-trusted-stylist of Grass Designs, as my stylist and my little one, Air, is there as my cheerleader. With these people by my side, what is left for me to fear?
So just imagine how relieved I felt when I heard back from the client about how they loved the pictures and saw this BTS from the ever talented Joana Eduardo. It’s a testament that my clients had so much fun and was really satisfied. Their smiles were genuine and they were really happy with their experience.
You can view their pictures here: http://denmontero.com/esession-francis-judy-two-gardens-tagaytay/
I came in as a photographer, I left as a friend. I may not be the best one there is, but I am just so proud to meet such wonderful people, be entrusted with such great stories and be treated as a part of their family with every shoot that I do and with every event that I cover.
Ps. This was taken 7 months ago, I’m 15 lbs heavier (blame it on the BER months… yes, lulusot talaga ako! Walang makakapigil sakin! Hahaha!) I’m currently on my journey to hotness so that the next BTS that I’ll do, I’ll be hotter than ever! 😛
Browsing through different blogs, I saw this great post entitled “Date a Girl Who Writes.” The post was so surreal and was beautifully written and I feel like I’m reading those lines. For this reason, it’s time to give photographers some justice. And now I write my top 10 reasons why you should date a girl who takes .
You should date abecause she will always know how to make you smile.
Photographers would always go to the extremes just to catch that magical moment of capturing that true and unscripted smile on their photographs. And sometimes admit it or not, you do smile as well when you see a photographer asking his subject to grin as if you’re the subject too and just even at the sight of any type of camera we just smile and tend to do the “peace” sign. I don’t know what’s with usand our weird relationship with cameras that even during wakes and sad events; we still smile in our pictures. It’s a very mythical question next to and Unicorns.
You never need to spend so much on dates.
So you asked her out and you’re cracking your head to decide where to take her. If you’rea photographer, anywhere I mean literally, you can take her anywhere as long as she has her camera. Take her to a park, take her to the market, and even take her to your ball game. Instead of ranting how unprepared you are for this date, she’ll appreciate you more for showing her the reality. She’ll see it as a great opportunity to shoot and she will take it as a challenge to make the most gorgeous pictures out of such date tragedy. But please, pretty please swear to take her to a better place next time.
You can save up on traveling expenses.
Ok, so if other girls are so high maintenance that they expect you to use a limousine to drive her around, that is a far cry when it comes to dating photographers. When you’re dating one, you can really save a lot of money and gas. Instead of taking a car or something she’ll prefer to take long walks, and to take pictures. I know what you’re thinking… that guy who invented “photo walks” is truly amazing.
On your first date? CLICK! CLICK!
Enjoying a sundae cone? CLICK! CLICK!
Tickets to a concert? CLICK! CLICK!
When you’re dating a photographer, you’ll never run out of souvenirs. Your every move and every moment is carefully documented on their film or memory cards. (Hell yeah, films not dead! Still uses one!) You just need to be very, very, very patient to wait for her to satisfy her eye for that picture. So always remember that before you dig in to that mouthwatering quarter pounder, let her take her pictures first.
Your facebook will always be very active without even opening it.
So you had your date, you went out and all. Moments later, rest assure that you will have millions of tagged photos. If some people pay good money just for someone to maintain theirfor them, then you are so damn lucky… and what’s best, it’s done out of love… awww!
You will always have an instant events photographer.
Got a party to attend? Or a reunion will take place? Just take her with you and you’ll have an instant photographer without a pip! She would adore this moments as she sees it as a great opportunity to build a portfolio. But even though she tells you that she just wants to take pictures, don’t listen. What she really wants is to spend a great time with you, and be able to know the person closest to your heart.
You will always have a great rocking.
Admit it or not, photography today has gained popularity since social media networking began. Nowadays, it’s all about who has the greatest profile picture. Once you’re dating a photographer, you’ll always have new and interesting pictures. Get creative with her and conceptualize artistic pegs for her to work on.
Diet? What diet? Just photoshop it.
When you’re dating a photographer, she will never tell you you’re fat, rather she will just say “let’s just photoshop it honey…” haha! So you have this big beer belly showing? No worries just liquefy it. Want some washboard abs? Dodge and burn. Dating her is like datingminus the knives and needles. Lol!
They will always see something magical in even the simplest things.
We (yes, it includes me… lol) always make every simple moment be extra special. Photographers have a very high attention to detail, so even if you’re just out enjoying some fish balls at the street corner, she’ll truly make the most out of it. Sometimes they tend to develop a mini documentary of those events in their head by carefully framing each scene. You’ll begin to notice things that you never thought of, and you’ll learn a lot of views if ever you’ll take a peek inside their heads. Everything just seems to be in slow mo. and you become more appreciative of how beautiful the world is.
Lastly, just date her because you love her.
Congratulations, you made it to the end of my post! Woot – woot! So you might be expecting a tear jerking quote or a very emotional word of wisdom but you won’t see it here. All I can tell you is that just follow your heart. Regardless of who she is, a photographer, a writer, a painter or a stripper you don’t need anyone’s approval if you really love her. It doesn’t take any blog or any guide to tell you what to do. You just need to listen, and follow your heart.
I am neither a love doctor nor Sociology Major. I am neither a historian nor a Behaviorist. I am just a woman living in the Philippines trying to set her own standards and adhere to the norms that society has imposed onto us on how to be a Filipina.
Being a Catholic country, we are governed by a certain set of moral laws. We might say that we Filipinos are a truly conservative race but as time progresses and modernity creeps its way in, this ideology has taken its toll for most of us, mostly for Filipinas. At this time of modernization, it is really hard to maintain that Maria Clara concept that we are being taught back in school. We are restricted by an invisible line that separates us to other races, and acts us the criteria for those judgmental stares.
I was listening to my player when I heard this great song from my favorite band, Parokya ni Edgar entitled “Pangarap Lang Kita.” Listening to the verse: “Ang hirap maging babae, kung torpe yung lalaki, kahit may gusto ka, hindi mo masabi…” made me think that it is so true. Here in our country, it has been a big taboo for girls to express what they truly feel. We are bounded by norms and brought up with an understanding that as a Filipina we should be courted, serenaded, and our hand asked from our parents before we try to start a relationship with that significant other. As this certain concept still dwells in the minds of Filipinos, the question is if there is still a decent Filipino guy willing to go through this miles of courtship just to get her simple “yes” or is there a truth behind the remark, “Ang tunay na lalaki, ubos na.”
Personally, I don’t believe in courtship. I see it as a fictitious façade worn by ego centered men. For me it masks the true identity of that person as he tries to only show his good side to get that “pogi points”. Instead of having the opportunity to know him well, it is barred by the role he needs to portray to be your “perfect man.” I haven’t been in a lot of relationship, and I don’t know how to play this game well, but through my careful observations and tips I got from my guy friends I really hope this article would help us know and understand a modern Filipina more as she tries to balance reality and expectations.
Chapter I. The Sad Truth about Fairy Tales.
I was browsing the net earlier when I saw a certain post about Fairy Tales, especially for Disney Characters and how they have taught us that everything will be ok if you’re beautiful. Honestly I never saw it that way, I have adored these Disney Princesses for almost my entire life yet then again at some point it is true. If you’re beautiful, people will always go the extra mile to exert the effort to know you. They get all the attention and the limelight leaving us average people none. For western people, this is no big deal. If they want someone, it is ok for them to make the first move. But for us Filipinas…. It is a major no-no. We should appear to be friendly yet not too approachable. Tricky huh? But our best weapon here will always be our confidence.
Chapter II. Embracing your own Filipina beauty.
The magazines, internet and even fairy tale books has created this picture of what beauty is ever since we’re young. We have this image of a beautiful person to be fair skinned, long legged, with a pointy nose and to be super skinny like those Victoria Secret models. That’s why it was really a shame that we Filipinas are going overboard with Glutathione and Whitening Soaps. Instead of loving what we have, we tend to despise who we are which has also meant despising the fact that we are Filipinas. In order for someone to love you, you should learn tolove yourself first and make the most out of your hidden beauty. Stop posting slutty pics in facebook and adding a caption “I am so ugly” and then waiting for someone to comment: “no, don’t say that you’re beautiful…” For me that is really sad, and pathetic. Confidence exudes beauty so if you love yourself, then no matter what everyone may think, you know deep in you that you are indeed drop dead gorgeous. Yehey to the power of our minds!
Chapter III. Moves like Jiggy
So now, you have that oozing confidence which makes you feel like a supermodel. You had eyes on you yet you still long for that one specific stare, the one from your ultimate crush. For westerners, they can just go directly to that guy and open up a conversation, but for Filipinas it takes a long while. Filipino guys think that we Filipinas are so lucky most especially when they believe we don’t need to do any move for the one we like which is ultimately wrong. We are dying every minute that passes without that special person approaching us. It’s not like we can grab them and say “hey, let’s talk.” We can’t make him feel we’re interested yet we should at least let him know that we might be. Filipinos always tend to interpret small actions as wrong signals, so always measure the consequences of your actions. My advice, just play it cool. Even though you’re itching to grab him and to make the first move, just take a deep breath and relax. Never get caught looking but if he did, just give your sweetest i-am-innocent smile. If it still doesn’t work, play outside the field. Talk casually with his friends, for eventually at some point the conversation will be directed to him and there you can start getting your swag on! Lol!
Chapter IV. The Mutual Drama
Ok, let us say that your charms worked and by some miracle you were able to put on a spell on him, then we go to the next part which is often termed as MU (Mag-Un). Mutual Understanding or MUs is another part of this weird thing called love that I really don’t understand. It’s like you like him, he likes you but for some soap opera reason you just can’t be together yet you know that you are both in love. I always tend to laugh at this kind of stories as I really don’t get it. The funny part about this is after you have been dating for a while; Boy asks girl if they can level up from the friendzone and then Girl tells boy to court her first. My initial reaction… OMG, what’s wrong with you?!?
Ok, ok so some of you might be having doubts about my sexuality as I always tend to favor the guys point of view but I assure you I am 100% female. You can even check my Birth Certificate. Lol. At first, I really don’t get it but then again I realized… “it’s the Filipina way” and instead of fighting it, let us just go with the flow.
For boys, if you truly love her then you have to wait. Just follow whatever she says and never forget to listen. Honestly, she is confused as hell and scared at the same time but you should also consider that she is just trying to protect your relationship from the society. She doesn’t want to appear easy and that she just wants to make a sturdier foundation for your relationship. It would hurt her if she would hear comments like, “nag-landian lang sila na agad” and other cruel things that cruel people might say. But if you’re not into her that much then STOP at this right instant. Stop making her expect and dream about forever when you have no intention of staying.
For girls on the other hand, don’t make him wait so long. Always remember that they also have emotions and please don’t toy with it as they are the ones who have a very hard time getting up when they fall down. If you want something then tell it, they perceive our minds as Rocket Science and they’re doing the best they can to figure us out. Most of all, trust your instinct for love is a very tricky game.
Originally posted in Definitely Filipino.
© Den Montero | Cavite Wedding Photographer
Hooray! My photo was included in You the Photographer’s Top 25 Favorite Photos from their 2014 Gallery! I never expected it and I am just so happy to be part of this list along side the greats from all around the globe! Thank you so much You the Photographer!
Whoa, I never thought in a million years that I will someday be a Cavite Wedding Photographer. For years and years I’ve stayed away from weddings as it has always opened dark memories from my past but who knew that this day would come and I would actually love weddings!
Shooting weddings had been a really great and memorable journey for me. It has opened my eyes to the concept of forever and made me believe that there will always be that person who will love you beyond your flaws and imperfections. This path that I chose to take is not easy and there is definitely a whole lot of things that I need to learn but on this same road I met people along the way who has always stood by me and believed in me and I can’t thank them enough.
To everyone who believed in me and trusted me, my sincerest thanks. You have always been beside me cheering me whenever I begin doubt myself. THANK YOU!
Cheers to US and to years to come!
Just received an early Christmas gift from Vogue Italia.., I just got my first approved photo! Witwew!
I must say that their screening process is really strict that is why having an approved photo is such a great achievement for a dreamer like me!
This is just the beginning, and certainly there is more to come. I just feel so happy! Super Yay!